How to tell if you should give a guy your number at a bar

How many times have you been out of your house/apartment/rock you live under and a guy has approached you?

Now how many times has this guy asked for your number?

How many times have you actually given it out without making up some lie about your “boyfriend” that lives in Pittsburgh (yeah I did that last week)?

I’m always a little skeptical about giving out my number. This stems from a number of reasons, the most important being that most times when I give a guy my number he blows up my phone if I don’t text back in a fast enough manner. Homeboy, maybe I’m busy. Or maybe the tequila made me think those joggers you had on were a good choice and you weren’t a total douche.

Among the multitude of reasons us girls have for being hesitant with giving out our numbers to guys, there are some tips to help with this.

If he is slurring his words, don’t do it

This one is kind of obvious. Sure, maybe he buys you a drink and you may even dance (dry hump) but he’s probably dancing with you and holding on to you aggressively because he needs your body for support. He won’t even remember your face and that’s why he was so quick to add you on Snapchat. Save yourself the recap of how he got your number and excuse yourself to the bathroom when he asks and LEAVE.

He strikes up a good conversation

If he can walk up to you and actually hold a conversation after most likely complimenting you to get your attention, he could hold potential to be worthy of your number. Even if it’s just casual conversation about the news or the area you live, he doesn’t totally suck because he isn’t playing on appearance. But if he jumps right to “So, how old are you?” “Are you from (x)?” and anything related to your physical attributes, he doesn’t deserve your number.

He claims he’s a model

Run. Go to the bathroom. Call your mom. Just get out of there. If I had a dollar for every time a guy I met while out at the bar or on a walk through campus, I wouldn’t need to rent textbooks. He clearly wants you to notice he’s good looking, but that’s all he is – just a pretty face who is too high on his own ego to think of anyone but himself.

If he’s determined

If he won’t let up and sits down next to you at the bar and pulls out his phone for you to add your info to, just do what I did. This guy would not leave me alone so I did what I thought was best and gave him a guy friend’s number who wasn’t out with me. Yes, I gave my friend a head’s up who originally said he’d “let him down easy.”

If you find him breathtakingly hot, go for it

Especially if you see him at the gym because you know he’s even hot while sweating and maybe grunting. But seriously, if a hot guy approaches you at they gym, or if you approach him, go for it! At least know he somewhat cares about his health and fitness and he probably saw you squatting (booty work).

Free drinks don’t entitle him to your number

Sure, he’s a nice enough guy to buy you a couple of drinks, but that doesn’t mean you have to give him your number. If you think he’s cute/could be a good texted, go for it. But do not feel obligated to give it to him because of that vodka cranberry he gave you.

If he’s too drunk to remember your name, don’t do it

Lesson learned, this should be a big red flag. I had a guy who kept calling me his ex girlfriend’s name, so he was politely* denied when he asked for my number. I’m just assuming he wanted it for two reasons: 1. Because he could use me putting it in his phone as a way to have my name and 2. Well the obvious 2am bootycall I’d be sure to get. Hard pass, ladies.

If he photobombs your girlies photo, eh that’s your call

I’ve seen this go a number of directions. Group of girls gets in a picture together and there’s always that one guy who hops into it uninvited. This guy got your attention and odds are he’s going to ask for your number. If he totally ruined the awesome picture, give him the cold shoulder. But if he made the photo hysterical, I say go for it.

While there will probably never be a good way to decide whether or not to hand out your number to random guys, hopefully this was helpful and you’ll think of giving that creep your guy friend’s number next time instead of your own.