Saying you’re ‘happy being single’ doesn’t make you any more of a feminist

It seems – in the case of heterosexual women – that saying how happy you are being single makes you appear to be an independent woman. You’re liberated and know you don’t need a man to feel validated. Yet when you think about it, this is actually quite contradictory.

In my eyes, constantly going on about males and still using them as some sort of measure for your worth isn’t really as feminist as you had hoped. I’m not saying that you’re not happy being single, but the fact you have to try so hard to prove a point that you are happy without a guy in your life just makes it seem a little untrue.

And it’s not your fault either. Women have been brought up looking at their life from this aspect of our lives (and ourselves) always being like half, and a man makes it a whole. We’ve grown up thinking it’s such an important part of our lives; men have had careers and we have them. Obviously, I am generalising slightly and this view is old fashioned and hopefully it will become more of the past.

Saying you’re oh so happy without a boyfriend proves you’re still looking at your life from that one angle – relying on men. You’re still talking about your life in relation to boyfriends, whereas I think women should talk about their life in terms of them. Their happiness, career, aspirations in life and achievements.